What is Couple Counselling?
Couple Counselling can be of huge benefit to any relationship, regardless of the nature or severity of your problems. Some of the major ways in which couples counselling can benefit your relationship is in the areas of:-
– improved communication,
– revitalising your emotional connection and
– re-negotiating your commitments.
Deaf & HOH Couples generally come to couples counselling when they realise that their relationship is in some kind of trouble. Sometimes the problem is so significant or has been left unattended for so long, that the relationship is already in severe crisis. At other times, the couple becomes aware at an earlier stage that they are not able to resolve their problems on their own, and that they need the help of a relationship counsellor before their relationship hits crisis point and heads to dissolution.
No relationship is ever entirely smooth sailing. Sometimes the problems are overtly present form the beginning of the relationship, sometimes they surface after a long time of being together, or as a result of unexpected stresses. Whatever trouble your relationship is in, and no matter how severe your relationship is being affected, almost all couples can benefit from couples or relationship counselling at some time in their relationship.
In order to understand how relationship counselling can benefit your relationship, it is first important to understand what Deaf couple counselling is and why couples attend. In short, relationship counselling happens with a professional Deaf focused couple counsellor, psychologist or therapist and is primarily focused on helping a couple resolve problems or issues that may be plaguing them or causing distress between them. Although we tend to think of Deaf couple counselling as being limited to romantic relationships, it can also include other family relationships, friendships and work relationships.
In some cases, the issues are substantial, like chronic or constant fighting, discovering that an affair happened or struggling with differences in sexual desire. In other cases, a couple may attend couple counselling to help them make decisions about a particular aspect of their relationship (like where to live, whether to get married or whether to have a baby). Sometimes couples come to relationship counselling as a way of understanding each other better and making a more informed decision about a long-term commitment.
Many couples find themselves choosing couple counselling as a method of helping themselves through difficult periods when the relationship may be going through a development phase of contraction or expansion and how they relate to each other may be shifting and changing.
The primary benefits of couples counselling include:-
1. improving the way you communicate with one another, reducing the number and intensity of your arguments, enhancing your understanding of each other’s needs and reactions
2. revitalising lost intimacy and restoring a sense of loving connection in your relationship
3. helping a couple to negotiate or re-negotiate commitments.
Improved Communication & Understanding
A relationship is made up of individuals, and as individuals, we bring our own personal history, personality, needs, hopes and desires to our relationships. As a result, even the most exceptional couple will never see eye to eye on every issue. To be able to come together and share our lives (or an aspect of our lives) with another human being, there will always be the need for discussion, compromise and negotiation.
Our ability to communicate with our partner – to share our own needs and fears, and to listen properly to their needs and fears – is, therefore, an essential tool for any healthy relationship. Qualified couples or relationship counsellor is trained to recognise and challenge your current communication habits, and to teach you how to communicate more effectively with one another. Often, just being encouraged to talk openly and honestly during your couples counselling session can already set you on the path to more open and calmer communication.
Strong communication skills (talking and listening) will allow you to resolve problems big and small and will help keep your relationship strong even during times of severe stress.