CODA Counselling helps children of deaf adults explore their thoughts and feelings with experienced CODA counsellors who can relieve the sense that they are not alone.
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Deaf4Deaf has a specialist CODA counsellor that was a child of a deaf adult.
Children of deaf adults (CODA) often serve as interpreters for their parents, thus becoming the communication link between their parents and the hearing world.
There are several concerns surrounding children of deaf adults (CODA) that serve as interpreters for their parents.
One concern is that children are expected to interpret in situations that are considered inappropriate, whether its subject or age appropriateness, placing them in confusing and vulnerable situations. This creates for some hearing children an unwanted pressure and burden that they are too young to resist or negotiate.
Often Children of deaf adults (CODA) experience isolation and rejection
Protection is another issue that coda’s face within the family unit. The hearing child may not interpret for their parents the insensitive remarks or comments made by a hearing person who assumed everyone in the family was deaf because they were all signing.
The flow of information changes drastically with the addition of a deaf family member
The family power structure is greatly influenced by the flow of information. The flow of information in a hearing family is open within the family system and outside the family system to the larger community, but the flow of information changes drastically with the addition of a deaf member; moreover, it can be severely restricted when families with deaf and hearing members do not have a mutual communication system.
The issue of communication between the deaf parent and the hearing coda shows that most deaf parents “have no particular problem” accepting their coda child’s ability to hear, but are “acutely aware” that parenthood forces them to address things.
Often times coda’s experience isolation and rejection from peers because they do not feel comfortable or want to associate with the deaf family members, thus creating a situation in which the CODA cannot openly discuss emotions and feelings of rejection with their parents for fear of hurting their feelings such as ‘monsters’, burglars, smoke alarms, and cracking sounds of the ceiling collapsing
Children also may become hyper-vigilant, listening for things that their parents could not hear such as ‘monsters’, burglars, smoke alarms, and cracking sounds of the ceiling collapsing. Many feel that this could be considered as ‘role reversal’ and could later cause problems for the parent in later years when teenage trials and power struggles take place.