CODA Counselling helps children of deaf adults explore their thoughts and feelings with experienced CODA counsellors who can relieve the sense that as a CODA you are entirely alone with your problems.
Privately paid one to one CODA counselling & in some circumstances, we can apply for NHS funded counselling for CODA children that are over 14 years of age.
CODA Counselling gives you greater self-knowledge and understanding that can enhance your relationship with your deaf parents and community at large. CODA Counselling can help others understand your feelings and improve your sense of choice and self-esteem. This, in turn, can cultivate the feeling that life can be enjoyed rather than endured.
At the core of CODA counselling is the confidential and collaborative relationship where the experienced CODA therapist that guides the person on a journey of increased understanding.
CODA counselling offers a relationship with a CODA counselling therapist that has either lived as a CODA or has been a parent of a deaf child, the intimate knowledge of what a CODA is experiencing was essential for D4D to offer CODA counselling.
Our intent of alleviating distress and rekindling hope
Children of deaf adults (CODA) often serve as interpreters for their parents, thus becoming the communication link between their parents and the hearing world.
There are several concerns surrounding children of deaf adults (CODA) that serve as interpreters for their parents. One concern is that children are expected to interpret in situations that are considered inappropriate, whether its subject or age appropriateness, placing them in confusing and vulnerable situations. This creates for some hearing children an unwanted pressure and burden that they are too young to resist or negotiate.
Most of these situations are ‘encouraged’ by members of the hearing world
It is quite interesting to note that most of these situations are ‘encouraged’ by members of the hearing world. On the other hand, children of deaf adults (CODA) children also enjoy the richness associated with the knowledge of language and cultures of two worlds and report that maintaining this ‘special’ role in the family structure helped them gain responsibility, maturity and the ability to empathise with others.
Often Children of deaf adults (CODA) experience isolation and rejection
Protection is another issue that coda’s face within the family unit. The hearing child may not interpret for their parents the insensitive remarks or comments made by a hearing person who assumed everyone in the family was deaf because they were all signing. Often times coda’s experience isolation and rejection from peers because they do not feel comfortable or want to associate with the deaf family members, thus creating a situation in which the CODA cannot openly discuss emotions and feelings of rejection with their parents for fear of hurting their feelings such as ‘monsters’, burglars, smoke alarms, and cracking sounds of the ceiling collapsing
Children also may become hyper-vigilant, listening for things that their parents could not hear such as ‘monsters’, burglars, smoke alarms, and cracking sounds of the ceiling collapsing. Many feel that this could be considered as ‘role reversal’ and could later cause problems for the parent in later years when teenage trials and power struggles take place.
The flow of information changes drastically with the addition of a deaf family member
The issue of communication between the deaf parent and the hearing coda shows that most deaf parents “have no particular problem” accepting their coda child’s ability to hear, but are “acutely aware” that parenthood forces them to address things. The family power structure is greatly influenced by the flow of information. The flow of information in a hearing family is open within the family system and outside the family system to the larger community, but the flow of information changes drastically with the addition of a deaf member; moreover, it can be severely restricted when families with deaf and hearing members do not have a mutual communication system.
Deaf4Deaf can deliver counselling for children or now adults of deaf parents, choose your counsellor.